Dear Sheri: What Happens When It's Time to Stop Driving

Dear Sheri,

My children insist I stop driving because they worry about my eyesight. I understand their concern, but giving up my keys feels like giving up my independence.

I don't want to depend on everyone else for rides.

How do I accept this without feeling like I've lost part of myself?

—Keys in My Hand

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Dear Keys in My Hand,

Giving up driving is one of the hardest transitions many older adults face. It isn't just about transportation—it's about freedom.

Allow yourself to grieve that loss. It's real.

At the same time, remember that independence isn't measured by whether you drive. It's measured by your ability to continue making choices about your own life.

Explore transportation options before you need them. Many communities offer senior transportation services, volunteer drivers, rides from friends, and family members who genuinely want to help.

Accepting help isn't giving up. It's adapting.

Sometimes strength looks less like holding tightly to yesterday and more like embracing today with wisdom.

Sheri